Ok, so I was really pissed off when I wrote the last 2 posts. Its a new day and I have had a chance to reflect on some things. I still believe everything I wrote, but I have to acknowledge the fact that women like the ones I described have mental issues that cause them to be so worthless. It is their own belief that they are worthless. This starts way before the first lie, and before the first abusive boyfriend. It starts in the home as a child.
Women who hook up with abusive men, and women who cannot live in reality both become this way in childhood. Though it may be true that abusive men CAN develop their traits from having abusive fathers, their mothers can and usually do play an even bigger part in their development. Children usually attain most of their personalities from their mothers.
A man who grew up seeing his mother beaten by his father will not usually grow up to beat women, unless his mother enabled the father by saying it was ok, she deserved it, or he didnt mean it. Even if the mother doesn't outwardly express that it is "ok", she expresses it by staying in the abusive relationship. It is very easy to say that men are assholes and that they are to blame for beating women, because he SHOULD have control over his rage, but if his mother enabled the men in his life to be an example of such behavior, why would he psychologically think it was wrong to do what he does? If there were no consequences paid by the men he grew up around, he might just SAY it is wrong after the fact without truly believing it is. Remember, the apologies are also a part of his training.
A woman who grows up with an abusive father will also think it is how men are supposed to act- or at least think it is normal behavior, ONLY if the mother enables it to happen. If a mother puts up with the abuse and makes excuses for it, the child will grow up to think that all men are like that. That child will probably not trust men at all, because she would rather be alone than have an abusive man and if she DOES decide to give a man a chance in her life, she will probably put up with a lot of abuse thinking it is normal.
On the other hand, a woman that grew up with a father that is NOT abusive can also become an enabler for these assholes. This is usually because their MOTHER made them believe somewhere in their lives that they are worthless. A woman with no self-worth will put up with a ton of abuse because she doesnt really believe that she deserves better. This is also true for women who refuse to live in reality, somewhere in their life they developed an insecurity about who they are and think that creating an alter reality is better.
I am sure that most women who read this will immediately think that I am just a woman hater. I must be, to blame the MOTHER instead of the abusive father -right!? The truth is, I adore women and mostly hate men because of how they made women think so long ago that being a woman was inferior to being a man. Men failed to realize the importance of the contributions women made to a family and to society as a whole. Because of this, women wanted to get out of the homes and prove they were every bit as good as men, and now people who think that women belong in the home are somehow wrong. I dont say that women belong in the home because they cant do everything that men can do, I say that because when women were in the home, everyone was better off.
If women would hang up their business suits and leave the job market, there would be no unemployment. Everyone would be able to support a family on one income, because the demand for labor would rise, which would raise the pay that people get for working. Men would once again feel like they had purpose, and would become better men. There would be less children born without fathers to raise them because that type of man would be eventually phased out as men regained their dignity. Women would feel much pride knowing that they raised GOOD men and women that are prepared for society. There are so many many many benefits to going back to a society where women stayed at home, and if men COULD be as good as women at this, or were even capable of having children- I would be all for MEN staying at home if it would produce the same effect.
next post; benefits to women staying home.
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